{"id":65,"date":"2016-08-08T15:18:02","date_gmt":"2016-08-08T21:18:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/krisp.ca\/mobile\/?p=65"},"modified":"2016-08-08T15:19:46","modified_gmt":"2016-08-08T21:19:46","slug":"missed-connections","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/krisp.ca\/mobile\/missed-connections\/","title":{"rendered":"Missed connections."},"content":{"rendered":"

I always liked the term \u2018missed connections.\u2019 Even in its extreme brevity, it manages to convey a sense of hope. Missed<\/em> connections, implying the possibility of a future attempt and a second chance.<\/p>\n

A missed connection is a story unfinished. It is a patchwork of what-ifs and a loose, dangling thread of if-onlys. That, I think, is why we often can\u2019t stop thinking about them: there is so much possibility surrounding a missed connection that we simply can\u2019t help but wonder what might have been.<\/p>\n

For this reason, missed connections used to make me feel deeply upset. I would get so wound up in all of the possibilities, the what-ifs and the if-onlys, that I would feel a tangible sense of loss with each one. But, now, I no longer feel that way.<\/p>\n

The more time I spend thinking about my life, and the kind of life that, going forward, I want to have and create for myself, I realize that I don\u2019t want to cultivate relationships that are based solely on convenience. I want to fill my life with people who want to be there and have worked to be there. It\u2019s one thing to meet someone new and have an amazing first encounter, but it\u2019s something else entirely to put in the necessary time and effort it takes to build and sustain a lasting relationship.<\/p>\n

The phenomenon of missed connections, I think, primarily refers to those soul-stirring chance encounters with strangers that we sometimes get to experience. But, lately, I\u2019ve also come to apply the term \u2018missed connection\u2019 to all of the relationships in my life that, for one reason or another, simply didn\u2019t pan out.<\/p>\n

Why? Because I truly believe that we remain linked to all of the people we have come into contact with in our lives, regardless of whether or not we continue to remain in physical proximity to them. We have all been affected in some way, big or small, by every single person that we\u2019ve ever come into contact with \u2014 and, likewise, every single person that we\u2019ve ever interacted with has, in some way, been affected by us.<\/p>\n

In my experience, whether or not we continue to stay in touch with those people often has less to do with how much we like or dislike them than it does with how willing (and able) we are to commit to building that relationship. Some people \u2014 many people, in fact \u2014 simply aren\u2019t able to create that kind of space in their lives. But it doesn\u2019t mean that they’ll never be able to, and it certainly doesn\u2019t mean that they don\u2019t want to.<\/p>\n

And so, I no longer assume that a parting of ways will be permanent, and I no longer assume that it\u2019s the result of some deep, unresolvable incompatibility. Instead, I simply think of it as a missed connection: it is a story unfinished, and there is a good chance that, one day, the story will continue.<\/p>\n

P.S. I would love for us to dive deeper into this conversation. Whether it\u2019s a question, a comment, or an insight on something entirely different, send an email to jana@krisp.ca and let me know your thoughts.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I always liked the term \u2018missed connections.\u2019 Even in its extreme brevity, it manages to convey a sense of hope. Missed connections, implying the possibility of a future attempt and a second chance. A missed connection is a story unfinished. It is a patchwork of what-ifs and a loose, dangling thread of if-onlys. That, I … Continue reading Missed connections.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"spay_email":"","jetpack_publicize_message":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p7LRlm-13","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/krisp.ca\/mobile\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/65"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/krisp.ca\/mobile\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/krisp.ca\/mobile\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/krisp.ca\/mobile\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/krisp.ca\/mobile\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=65"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/krisp.ca\/mobile\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/65\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":66,"href":"https:\/\/krisp.ca\/mobile\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/65\/revisions\/66"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/krisp.ca\/mobile\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=65"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/krisp.ca\/mobile\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=65"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/krisp.ca\/mobile\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=65"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}